Going through a divorce can be tough for the family, especially the children. This is caused by numerous factors but most importantly, the transition that comes after divorce. Below, we have provided some tips on how parents can successfully co-parent through such a difficult time.
Be Honest With Your Child
It is important to let your children know what is going on. This is to make sure that they don’t feel confused. Firstly, make sure they are in the correct place of mind to have such a conversation and that the environment is appropriate. Then you may explain what divorce could mean and assure them that it changes nothing about their relationships with both parents. Be ready to handle all the emotions that come with such news, like shock, anger, confusion, and guilt, and be patient with them.
Take Care of Your Child Emotionally and Physically
It is easy to overlook the wellbeing of your child during such a difficult period. So, it is important to spend time with them consistently to find out how they are. You can do this by attending their school activities and initiating to go to other places with them. As a parent, you should make sure that you pay attention to your child and what they do to make them feel your love and presence. Do your best to keep track of things like checkups for their teeth and start orthodontic treatment if necessary. Such treatments must be started at the recommended age of seven to allow the teeth to be corrected well. You should, hence, be well informed about the state of their teeth and overall body health to see if they need to make appointments to see a dentist or doctor. Another great way to spend time with them would be to play games with them, encouraging them to be more active. The goal here is to establish a consistent routine for them to give a sense of order to their daily lives, and so that they know they are being cared for.
Keep Communication Open With Your Spouse
Communicating intentionally and consistently with your spouse is the key to successful co-parenting. This can either be done in person, via text, phone calls, or emails. Be sure to keep your child at the center of every discussion you have with the mom or father. Use your discussion time to talk about important things like child support, which is expected until the child turns 21, to provide clarity on both sides. Also, highlight topics of concern with regard to any area in the child’s life and plan future meetings to discuss them.
Solve Problems Maturely
You and your co-parent are bound to disagree on some things or have problems in areas like spousal support. In Ohio, where there is permanent and temporary child support, you may have disagreements with your co-parent if the money is not paid on time or at all. With that said, it is crucial to maintain an atmosphere of peace by solving problems away from the children. It does no good to put children in the middle of your adult problems. Involving your children in your conflicts may stress your child and possibly cause illnesses like depression and anxiety. Develop an attitude of appreciation for your co-parent which will allow you to get along well. Your child is also likely to learn effective problem-solving skills from the example you set for them.
Take Care of Yourself
You can only give your best to your children if you are healthy. So, it is important to take your physical, mental, and emotional well-being seriously for both your good and your children. You can do this by taking some time for yourself to do things that you like and not overworking yourself.
These few tips reveal that it is possible to parent successfully during a difficult divorce. This is made possible mainly by creating a routine and maintaining consistent communication with both your co-parent and your child.